Welcome to The Professional Freedom Expert where today we’re gonna discuss avoiding responsibility.
It’s a habit for most, but only a rare action for some.
If you’re focused on trying to improve your character as an entrepreneur or become a better leader in general, this lesson will serve you well.
It can be frustrating to deal with your you’re someone that’s working on teaching a lesson in virtue.
But at the same time you’re gonna also learn more about yourself or even someone you’re dealing with directly.
Let’s get directly into things.
Why Am I Avoiding Responsibility
I used to avoid responsibility as a delay for the uncomfortable feelings that I was sure I would be dealing with. Part of it was from toxic behaviors that I would learn. Whether it would be from peers, authority, or entertainment. It influenced me until I made an important change to my character.
Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
Dealing with uncomfortable feelings was something I had to learn to do. It wasn’t something that just happened overnight.
Matter of fact, I ended up picking up different techniques and management methods that would serve me in the moment.
So one of the best ways was consuming content that was positive for me. Maybe it would be in the form of visuals.
So TV, movies, short skits, anything that would just elevate my mood.
It could even be video games or music. Whatever content you would consider positive and put you into a better mode.
And from there, I would even allow myself to get mad momentarily.
That’s the key thing there. You’re not supposed to bask in it and stay in that feeling for a while, you have to also just turn it into your advantage.
Kind of like going Super Saiyan.
And that’s how it would work. for myself.
From there, I would even reinforce lessons I learned from wrestling and learned to embrace them.
One of the key quotes that they would preach and it stuck with me was to embrace the grind.
It was either a CageFighter or Rudis quote. I’m doing it in this case.
I see it being where it creates a leadership that can be transferred to the next generation.
You’re able to explain what these techniques and methods do for you.
And ultimately, what it ends up doing is creating a form of independence that sticks.
If you pick this up, you won’t need others to help get you out of whatever uncomfortable situation or feeling’s being experienced.
You become independent and can get yourself out of it.
Toxic Learned Behaviors Designed to Protect
Toxic learned behaviors that’s designed to “protect” are one of the things you should avoid at all costs.
Whether you’re seeing it in action with somebody else or you reflect and notice it internally.
All it does is create lack of accountability.
You become overly combative and you just end up showing a bunch of insecurities that only holds you back.
I deal with this myself by not putting too much credit on individuals that appear amazing to me.
So anyone I end up being attracted to or see something that looks promising get the credit for getting my attention, whether that’s overtly or covertly, but I end up not putting too much weight on whatever their impression is on me.
It’s the same as a quote that I got from Charlamagne the God. I follow some media outlets that include him. Occasionally he’ll mention how his father would tell him that people are never as good or as bad as they say they are.
And it is applicable in this situation too.
The lesson that I would have to be more conscious of when this applies is not becoming overly loyal to a single person because it would end up having me ostracized and unfairly separate genuine people.
Because whatever it is that I learn from them, I might get an impression from them that gets turned up to the max and at that point, it might be something where it could be overkill.
From there I end up shutting out somebody that could have been a decent asset to whatever my operation was or whatever project that I’m working on.
And it doesn’t always have to be business related.
It’s just something that will close more doors than it will open.
Final Thoughts
Responsibilities are avoided because:
- In most cases it feels uncomfortable to deal with
- It’s actually a habit that’s picked up from influences you acquire
To the second point, these people might have all the best intentions for you, but they’re not qualified to be your teacher in this regard.
And it’s only natural that we don’t wanna deal with anything that doesn’t feel good.
You have to grow into the type of person that embraces pressure and turns it into an advantage.